Are you frustrated because those manifesting goals are just NOT happening?
Do you go for what seem to be “easy” Desires, and then… nothing?
I feel you. The #1 question I hear when it comes to manifesting is some form of… “why is it NOT working?”
Here’s the good news…
If you have a clear and well-demonstrated framework for manifesting (such as my Core Manifesting Process) and your Desires aren’t showing up… there is always a reason. Always.
But it might not be what you think. Your manifesting goal might not be BIG enough.
Yes, I’m going to talk BIG for a second.
I know it’s not always popular, what with so much focus in the entrepreneurial / manifesting / co-creation world on slowing down, self care, being in your feminine and recovering from over-achievement.
In my early business coaching days, the buzzword (buzzphrase?) was “ease and grace.”
And… I get it. (Hey, my brand is Feminine Magic®, after all.)
But here’s the thing…
Our nature is expansion. “Bigness” is in your spiritual DNA.
Unfortunately, almost all of us get conditioned from an early age to put a lid on Desire, to keep that expansive nature in check.
And so we do. Or we fall into the trap of ambition – chasing egoic desires and other people’s plans for us – then wake up, discover how unhappy we are, and scale back.
We go for what we think we can have, what we are allowed to have, what someone else said we should want… rather than what is truly the Desire of our heart. And then we wonder why we’re NOT calling it in!
Often we assume that if the Desire is not materializing… it must be “too big.”
However, goals that are too SMALL are just as likely to make you feel like you’re banging your head against the wall.
I’ll use myself as an example.
For three years, I ran a training program for entrepreneurs, Goddess Business School®. Our clients loved it. They got extraordinary results. Many said it was the best business program they’d ever taken.
Over the course of 3 years, we had about 250 people enroll in Goddess Business School®. It was a 7-figure revenue stream and a phenomenal success.
So WHY did we have SUCH a challenge setting up ongoing lead generation for it? Why did filling it feel like SUCH a drain?
Because at the end of the day, the goal of [X] number of people in Goddess Business School® was too small a goal for me.
For me, even the idea of getting 500 people per year in a high-end coaching program feels small. Why? Because the coaching business model is simply not the appropriate container for what I’m here to do!
Of course there’s nothing wrong with the coaching business model. “Big” is relative – I know leaders with 8-figure businesses who are playing a big game and are right on purpose! But it was never meant to be my game.
The minute I gave myself permission to release that goal and embrace the what I truly wish my business to be – including the size – all of the pieces have been falling into place at a furious pace, sometimes so quickly that I feel like I can’t keep up.
So how about you? Is there something you’ve been beating your head against the wall about, trying to “make happen?”
Here are a few signs that it could be time to UP your manifesting goal…
- You’re bored. Really bored. Your resistance is off the charts, and not in that oh-sh*t-what-if-XYZ-happens kind of way, but in that would-rather-stick-hot-pokers-into-my-eyes-than-do-PDQ-because-I’m-bored-to-tears kind of way.
- You’re feeling constricted. Your goal feels “tight,” like you have no wiggle room for being surprised and delighted by the Universe. You can see only “one way” in front of you and it’s hard to access (or get excited about) other possibilities.
- Zero inspiration. All of your aligned actions are “been there, done that.” You’re receiving NO or next-to-NO intuitive hits or nudges about what actions to take next. You appear to have no opportunities.
- Your Desires are not manifesting, the goods are not showing up, you’re not meeting your goals. The eagle has not landed, and appears to be nowhere in sight.
Does this resonate?
Here’s how to find – and call in! – the Desire that is the perfect right size for you, right now:
1. Release the floodgates – a.k.a. your Truth.
Think about whatever you’re going for right now. I’ll wait.
Ok. Now ask yourself this zinger from David Neagle…
“If other people’s thoughts, judgments and opinions didn’t matter… would you still want the same thing?”
It’s a useful question to ask on a regular basis. Because as a beautiful human, you’re going to pick stuff up from other people – including “shoulds” about what you want!
Years ago I mentored with a woman who had a dream of creating a coaching organization on the scale of $10 million or more. I fell into the dream because it matched my idea of BIG at the time. I was already a good 2 years in before I realized the dream wasn’t mine.
There is no judgment here. We get inklings of what we want (and permission to have what we want) by leaning into what OTHERS want. It’s part of learning, growing, and being alive. Which is all the more reason why discernment is needed.
What is the true Desire of YOUR heart? Big or small, the Desire that will make you happy is the one that is really yours to begin with.
2. Say YES.
At the risk of repeating myself…
If you have a Desire, and it’s coming from the pure place inside of you – your Higher Self, your Essence – then the WAY for it to be made manifest is in your world already.
Everything you Desire is already here. But it won’t show up until you make a DECISION that you are having it.
You won’t even begin to see it – or the opportunity that can bring it to you – until you say yes.
This is where your faith comes in. Faith is one of your 4 magical tools. Use your faith to make your belief in the Desire bigger than your belief in the circumstances you see in front of you.
3. Forget about the “chunking down.”
I’m going out on a limb with this one.
Conventional coaching wisdom (that I’ve shared many times myself) says… if the goal feels too big or out of reach, “chunk it down” to make it something more manageable.
But that doesn’t really leave room for the BIG miracles, does it? Why no, it does not!
Now, I’m not saying to NEVER “chunk down.” IF you’re stretched to the point of abstraction (i.e., the goal doesn’t feel real)… chunking down may make sense so that you can wrap your mental arms around it, so to speak.
But instead of the conditioned response of shrinking-to-fit… I invite you to try on accepting what you REALLY want as not only possible, but inevitable.
As my good friend Justin says, “I don’t have to believe it before I create it.” (A contrarian with a heart of gold, that Justin.)
It’s already here. You can have it now. How do you call it in now? Begin by acknowledging that it’s here in the first place.
4. Bring yourself into energetic alignment with what you want.
This is NOT just about “raising your vibration” or visualizing.
This is about embodying on ALL levels – mental, emotional, physical, spiritual, somatic, and your actions – the energy of the one that has it now.
Different personal growth masters say this in different ways. Study them, and you will begin to notice that this is the secret sauce to calling in what you want with lightening speed.
(The “how” of this is at the heart of all of our manifesting training programs.)
The #1 reason why people don’t create what they want is because they don’t know what they want… or don’t give themselves permission to say YES to what they want.
These 4 steps will help you go for BIGGER – if that’s in alignment for you.
And if it’s not, they will help you get clear on what is true for you.
Here’s to saying YES to all of your most meaningful dreams!